Sometimes, I just want to high-five someone in the face with a giant graphic novel style hammer. Okay, maybe the nearest book to my hand, or the dinner plate in front of me. Obviously, I don’t actually do it. But, the thought does cross my mind.
Admittedly, I might not have actually high-fived someone in the face, but, I have seriously lost my shit with people. I’m not a patient person, it is right up there with my character flaws. Though the older I get the more I realise that keeping my cool has a far better result than when I lose it. It takes practice, the more you focus on staying calm, and the more situations you get through without your temper coming to the surface, the better you get at it.
What happens is it all goes on under the surface and you throw a mini tantrum on the inside while you portray a cool, calm, and collected front. I’ve learned that this is the way to positively influence any situation, but, it is easier said than done.
Handling any situation in life with finesse and grace makes one the better person. Most of us want to be the better person, but, it just doesn’t come that easy to everyone. There are people that are good at heart, but, they aren’t always very good at handling certain situations that trigger them to become the version of themselves that leave little to be desired. It is when we understand this and make a conscious decision to manage emotions and anger in constructive ways that we become better people and life changes for the better. It is important to realise that it is a choice one makes to live a better life and become a better partner, sibling, son, daughter, parent, boss, or colleague. Making the choice to practice self-control in all areas of life makes for a better and more balanced life.
Self-control is not only about controlling one’s anger it applies to all areas of life from business and management, relationships and sex, to indulging when it comes to food, drink, drugs, fun, work, and play. We need to learn when to speak and when to keep our opinions to ourselves. We need to learn how to express both our anger and our love in effective ways, when to throw ourselves into work and when to focus on family time and friends, when to party and when to take time out relaxing, when to give and when to take. We live in a world of instant gratification, we need to learn to be patient and trust the process, work hard and keep our lives in balance. Stick to the rules of everything in moderation, there is a time and place for everything, and don’t forget to keep your cool.